What’s at the Centre of Your Wheel?

What’s at the Centre of Your Wheel?

It’s been remarkable these last few months to teach three teams the ​How to Have Difficult Conversations​ model. Individuals on these teams have created their own relationship with the material as they worked to make the tools and skills their own. One such...
Are You the Leader We Need?

Are You the Leader We Need?

Recently, I decided to do a small experiment. I wanted to take what I know to be true about conflict management and how to have difficult conversations and see how it fits into what exemplary leaders do. Kouzes & Posner have studied exemplary leadership for over...
Let’s All Calm Down

Let’s All Calm Down

“We have thought of peace as the passive and war as the active way of living. The opposite is true. War is not the most strenuous life. It is a kind of rest-cure compared to the task of reconciling our differences.” … Mary Parker Follett As I catch snippets and shards...
Shed Tears of Joy With Me

Shed Tears of Joy With Me

A short news story caught my attention recently. President Biden was seen on his way to Camp David peace talks with Bill Ury’s newest book “Possible” under his arm. ​ Bill Ury is a big name in my world. He co-wrote the book “Getting to Yes” – the primer for...
Do We Need Each Other?

Do We Need Each Other?

Recently, one of my favourite kind of leaders, the savvy kind, decided he wanted to invest in his team by doing my Difficult Conversations course. They talked about doing it together, over a series of weeks, with my support to help with integration and application. As...
I am Mammal

I am Mammal

Who do you want to BE in conflict? When someone else does something that hits you as wrong, or challenging, threatening – how do you want to be in response? Do you want to be: Defended? Assertive? Aggressive? Do you want to be: Kind? Forgiving? Accommodating? In the...