Where Is Your Focus?

Where Is Your Focus?

I was talking with a friend recently who told me she thinks of herself as “lazy” when it comes to getting frustrated with people and their behaviours. I had noticed at a group gathering that she had been left out of an earlier event, and wondered if it was a pinch for...
You Can Be a Conflict Coach!

You Can Be a Conflict Coach!

Welcome back from the vortex of the holidays! Like many of you, I too had my fair share of heart-connected times and tenser family times. Much like our teams at work, our teams on the home front give us ample opportunity to do conflict well. One of the joys of my work...
There’s Power in a Take a Break Card

There’s Power in a Take a Break Card

In my decades as a conflict resolver, there is one thing I am crystal clear on: When we are in the grips of overwhelm and fear or frustration and anger, our capacity to think clearly and to problem-solve simply evaporates! It’s not just my noticing either. This has...
Can We Shift From Situational Stress to Joy?

Can We Shift From Situational Stress to Joy?

There is a phenomenon known as “situational stress.” That’s as it sounds: when something stressful happens in our lives, in our environment or in society, it can cause us stress. Straightforward. Situational stress can be anything and the most stressful are the...
What is the Key to Happiness?

What is the Key to Happiness?

Health has always been a passion of mine and I love the connections between conflict resolution and health. What is clear to me after so many years in the conflict field is that when we are in conflict, we are stressed. When we are stressed, our health suffers. I...
If Community Is To Be, It’s Up To Us

If Community Is To Be, It’s Up To Us

During the first week in September, I was helping my daughter move from her home in Amsterdam to take up doing her PhD in Copenhagen. It was a happy, and very full, time. She’d been living in Amsterdam for 5 years, and I too have gotten attached to Amsterdam and its...